Before you tie the knot, it makes sense to get to know your potential marriage partner. One of the things it helps to know is how your potential partner will deal with finances.
My husband and I got engaged after three weeks, and married two months after that. We didn't have a lot of time to get to know each other — although we did spend a lot of time together talking about important things. We did talk about some money issues, but probably not all the issues we should have.
Before you get married, and especially if you decide to merge your finances, here are 4 financial things to talk about:
This is one of the most important things you need to discuss before you tie the knot. My husband and I talked about student loans, my credit card debt, and his car loan before we got married. You should come clean about your debt, and what you're doing about it, and your potential mate should come clean as well. Have an open and honest talk about the debt situation, and how you will tackle it together. This is a great time to lay a foundation for avoiding high-rate consumer debt in the future.
It can be difficult to talk about income sometimes, since our society places so much emphasis on income and salary as status symbols. You might not want to appear as though you aren't making “enough.” Also, it can be uncomfortable if one of you makes a lot more than the other.
Talk about your expectations for the earning situation going forward, including whether or not you have a goal to become a one-income family (or one of your working part time) as part of your arrangements. These are things to talk about now, so that there aren't major surprises later.
3. Paying the Bills
How will you pay the bills? If you decide to completely merge your finances, like my husband and I did, this isn't as a big a deal since everything goes into — and comes out of — one big pot.
If you keep some separate accounts, though, this needs to be determined. Who will be responsible for which bills? Will you have one shared account for shared expenses, like housing, utilities, and groceries? If this is the case, then you need to figure out how much you each need to put in for these items. A percentage of income, based on what you each make? Or some other method?
This is not a fun conversation, but it's one that needs to be had.
4. Financial Priorities
Don't forget to have a talk about financial priorities. You need to determine what is most important for you to spend money on. This was something my husband and I didn't do, so it was a little surprising later to discover that we didn't always have the same ideas about how to spend our money.
The good news is that we share the same views on saving for retirement and what we are willing to go into debt for, as well as how to spend on our son. The other stuff has been worked out.
Making sure that you are financially compatible (or at least working toward it) can be a big part of harmony in your finances. Talk about these things before you get married so that you can work out any huge differences and problems ahead of time.
Nik @ Midlife Finance says
Talking about wedding expenses and other financial related stuffs with your soon to be partner in life is really important. I’m planning to get married by 3rd quarter next year that’s why me and my fiance are focusing more on saving right now.
Planning and preparing ahead of time for future expenses and plans not just for our wedding, but also for our marriage life will really pay off. :)
Don @ How You Can Find Love says
Money is the #1 reason why marriages end so you had better make certain you are on the same page when it comes to money before tying the knot. It can be hard to tell your significant other that you have debt but if they love you for who you are, they are going to be OK with it. They will help you grow and become a better person and assist you with getting out of debt, either by helping you pay or by keeping you in check.
Shawn @ Canadian Online Trading Guide says
If you can’t talk to you partner to be about finances then don’t get married, You’ll save money. I know that there comes a time in every serious relationship where you have to have a “talk” the better and more open you are about money the more rewarding your relationships will be